5 Steps for Socially Anxious Clients
If your sensuality feels blocked behind social awkwardness or shyness, this might be the blog for you.
I used to suffer intensely from social anxiety, to the point where I barely spoke at all between the ages of 16 and 18- perhaps that's part of the reason I became so interested in personal style and what I would call visual eloquence- expressing my inner world through style and spirit rather than through having to approach people and speak.
Thankfully, that quiet, awkward time is in the past for me, and with that empathy in mind, I have written this blog that I hope might help a shy gentleman out there approach a lady he is interested in.
Get to know my personality and desires in advance via this blog, X/ Bluesky and my wishlist. Yes, browse my wishlist, even if you have zero intention of buying anything: what’s on there tells you a lot about me and might give you something to chat about. Perhaps you like that product, hotel, restaurant or spa, or it’s on your bucket list, too!
If seeing someone you fancy naked for the first time makes you feel overwhelmed, you can have that moment alone and in advance using the wonders of the internet. I have a couple of nudes in my website gallery, and lots and lots of them on my OnlyFans account, which is the ideal place to get to know me better online. If you already know what I look like naked when we meet, you are more likely to look like Mr Cool (or at least, Mr Dignified) when you see the view in person.
Dream up a little date plan and mention it your message when you introduce yourself. You can use my wishlist for inspiration, if you like. Perhaps an art exhibition and dinner somewhere special to connect and build the tension followed by private time together at your hotel. Tip: unrushed first dates feel less stressful than brief encounters where one can almost hear the clock ticking. Squeezing a two-hour rendezvous into a packed schedule works much better with someone you are already very familiar with. A lunch or dinner date of four-six hours is my most popular first booking, and the time still flies.
Send a gift or tip in advance- always a pleaser!
You can do other advance prep before meeting to boost your sense of confidence and calm too. A yoga or gym session, a full body massage, a good night’s sleep, a haircut and professional shave, a mani-pedi, a hygienist appointment, new underwear, a little man-scaping, getting your favourite suit dry cleaned, and so forth. Each of these seemingly insignificant details can subconsciously positively affect a lady’s regard for you, give you ways to expel nervous energy in the run-up, and increase your inner confidence.
Ready to go? I know I am…